What Do You Want In Your Relationship?
One of my friends continually goes through a routine when dating. Its like she is caught up in her own dating groundhog day. For most of her life, she has been single. She spends lots of time in clubs, bars, going to the races, all the places you would expect she would go so she can meet men. She invests a lot of time doing this. Every so often, she meets someone she really likes and they start dating. A few weeks later, something changes, she gets confused and he disappears from her life.
Typically when asking her about these encounters, I ask “What went wrong?”. This question is typically responded to with a list of all the things that were wrong with him. My impression is that sometimes her issues are valid, but often she expects her partners to be super-human, forgetting that as humans, we all have out limitations.
Accepting the limitations in each other is a big part of dating and relationships. Our limitations are what make us human. They are what make us needed in a relationship. They are where we find room to grow, and it is only here, where our limitations exist, that true love of the unconditional variety, can be found.
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